KHWAAISH

" A single step can change someone's life "Keeping this gesture in heart we have established our small "khwaaish" by sole motive of making this world a better place by pouring our hearts into this.

Imagine getting up every morning and having to change your entire personality just to be recognized as a man or woman. LGBTQ+(. Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, and Queer), is a community that has to go through this process every day and which has always been suppressed, looked upon, and has lived under false identity just to ‘fit in’ into mainstream society. The social notion of being a male or a female has left no space for the part of society that identifies itself as both sexes( male and female) or maybe just likes the same sex. 

 

                  LGBTQ Acceptance Growing in U.S. and Other Countries Over Time | Best  Countries | US News

But it is quite difficult for us to understand their problem without actually stepping into their shoes. So let’s take a look at what it is like to be an LGBTQ citizen of India. 

LGBTQ Money Survey: Attitudes, Challenges, and Opportunities - Experian


In some parts of the country, lesbian women are subjected to family-sanctioned corrective "rapes", which are often perpetrated by their own family members. Vyjayanti Vasanta Mogli, a transwoman LGBT activist and public policy scholar at Tata Institute of Social Sciences, Hyderabad, who has openly spoken about her abuse at school, says that lesbians  and transmen in rural areas end up at the bottom of the hierarchy when it comes to basic human rights within the unit of family and village. She says and I quote “Village medics and babas often prescribe "rape to cure" lesbians of homosexuality. Refusal to marry brings more physical abuse. Stories of family acceptance that you see on TV and other media are more of an urban phenomenon." It comes as no surprise then that a tribunal recently ruled that the only danger to lesbians in India is from their own families.
Mogli shares that she was forced to stay at a psychiatric ward for several months after she came out. The experience has also shaped her deep distrust of the medical community.

        Why LGBTQ inclusivity still matters in higher education


“The psychiatric ward was like a prison complete with high walls and electric fence where I was treated like a criminal," she recalls. “I was administered psychotic drugs which pushed me into depression and confusion. The doctor conducted torturous psychosexual experiments on me by forcing me to stay with other mentally ill women. She wanted to see how I reacted to their interaction and sexual advances. This same person has now changed her practice to make it easy for people to shop for therapies that are more in fashion now. I am not saying all doctors follow unethical practices, but LGBT people and their parents must know that there are doctors who follow trends just to adjust their current practices to what will get them more clients and money."

Now, what do you think are the consequences of coming out, you may ask?

We found out in the study one of the major factors that result in the stigmatization of LGBT people is a parental reaction towards homosexuality. The study goes on to conclude that most LGBT people are acceptable to family only if they agree to behave like heterosexuals (and then they say ‘be you’).


                 Hate Speech, Harassment 'Significant Problem' For LGBTQ Users: Report : NPR


Sakshi Juneja, the founder of Gaysi, an online space for LGBT people, says one can never plan enough. “You don’t owe it to anyone to come out. So, I would say take your own time and come out to only those you are comfortable with. Financial and emotional stability are must-haves before you communicate with your family. At the end of the day, family members want nothing more than a safe and secure future for you, so it helps if you don’t come out in a state of emotional or financial breakdown."

Parmesh Shahani, head of Godrej India Culture Lab and author of the book Gay Bombay, does not know a single person whose life turned for the worse after coming out, in the long term.

It is, according to Shahani, the fundamental responsibility of any parent to accept their children’s identity. “You are not doing your child a favor by accepting her or him. You are just fulfilling your responsibility. By accepting your child you are also helping create a better society that values diversity and accepts the uniqueness of people as they are," he says.


       LGBTQ Youth Resources | Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender Health | CDC
So what is being done to create awareness about these struggles and lives of our LGBTQ brothers and sisters?

Today we are aware and as a society, are accepting this community more open-heartedly than ever before, thanks to the social media and corporate initiatives but acceptance in families and school circles still remains a struggle.
 
    20 Historic Moments in the Fight for LGBTQ Rights | Teen VogueSeptember 3, 2018, turned out to be a historical day when The Supreme Court of India declared the annulment of section 377- making homosexuality ‘NOT A CRIME’. The court said and I quote, “Section 377 was unconstitutional, in sofas as it criminalizes consensual sexual conduct between adults of the same sex.”
The media also did not just stand back and watch, popular TV shows such as Satyamev Jayate and The Tara Sharma Show have helped raise awareness among parents about LGBT issues. Durbo Jyoti, journalist, and LGBT activist, says some of his friends simply asked their parents to watch the episode of Satyamev Jayate that focused on alternative sexualities instead of trying to explain everything on their own.

                Understanding Anxiety and Depression for LGBTQ People | Anxiety and  Depression Association of America, ADAA
It is an encouraging sign that schools and colleges have begun to take up institutionally approved LGBT activism. Rohit Revi, one of the founders of Orenda, the gender and sexuality club at IIT Gandhinagar, says without LGBT activism in educational institutions, LGBT issues largely remain “untalkaboutable".
Anwesh Sahoo, Mr. Gay India 2016, says TV helped him through days when he was too young to understand all that he was going through. In the absence of open communication with his family, his role models included characters from Modern Family and actor Jim Parsons (who plays Sheldon Cooper in The Big Bang Theory). He adds that TV has the biggest reach when it comes to influencing both the elder and younger generations. “My interview with ETV Oriya, a regional channel, reached out to more people than anything I have ever presented or posted on social media or elsewhere. TV wins hands down in its reach."
Social spaces like Gaysi, Gaylaxy, and publishers like Queer Ink too have helped carve spaces for LGBT people to freely interact, share, and collaborate without the fear of being judged.

   BBVA USA announces LGBTQ Business Resource Group | BBVA
There are 100s of podcasts and pages on platforms like Spotify and Google Podcasts and Instagram which help people share about their lives and experiences with the community.


    English - LGBTQ Youth Resources

 But even after all this effort and awareness, the hardest part about being a part of LGBTQ is still the lack of acceptance they face in the country. If you are one of them and have faced acceptance issues, then all you have to do is remember these words by the American Actor, Chris Cofler. He says and I quote-
“THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU,
IT’S JUST THERE IS A LOT WRONG WITH THE WORLD YOU LIVE IN”

Peace out :)

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On the 75th anniversary of India's independence, Khwaaish collaborated with Alizeh and Pranaam foundation to organize a special event, TIRANGA.
Tiranga was not like any other independence event, it was an evening of celebration with three mini-events!



The first event was gracefully hosted by Khwaaish's Paryank Gothwal wherein the audience played games and quizzes about movies and fun emojis! Our participants also performed a thought-provoking poem and sang a patriotic song.



Our events were graced by the presence of many NC Cadets but our Main Event was a tribute to our chief guest, Mr. Raj Gujar, who has been army personnel for 5 years. This mini-event was hosted by Alizeh's Yahvi Sharma. The founders of Khwaaish, Pranaam, and Alizeh foundation thanked Mr. Gujar for his presence. A presentation commemorating the Olympic Medal winners of our country was shown as well. 



Sumedha Mishra, a young singer,  added luster to our event with songs that made the audience swoon at her voice.


Our participants made gripping speeches and recited incredible poetry appreciating the valor of our soldiers.
The host paid tribute to the unsung heroes of India's fight for freedom and all of us stood up, our hearts filled with pride, for our National Song, Vande Mataram.



The third event, hosted by Pranaam's Himanshu was filled with fun, laughter, and joy!
The team read confessions, made fun speeches, and played fun games like 'Guess the freedom fighter'. The participants elevated the atmosphere by songs, beatboxing and even a DJ joined us!
Tiranga was finally completed when all of us stood up for our National Anthem, remembering the fighters who sacrificed themselves, so we could be a free nation.
Jai Hind!

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👉 I am very thankful to the Alizeh, Khwaish and pranam foundation to make this  Independence Day a really memorable one and worth celebrating.  It was a really good experience with all of you and was a great interactive session.  I really enjoyed the event and performances by all. Hope for more like this in future. 💞
- Yashi, NCC Cadet

👉 A very insightful event, specially in thses dire times when it is not possible for people to meet up and celebrate this important day together. The 3 organizations  ( Khwaaish, Alizeh and Pranaam) showed commendable coordination and conduction in the smoothest way possible. In all, a very remarkable evening.
- Taruni, NCC Cadet

👉 It’s amazing how young people have so much in their heads these days. Seeing the efforts made the event a whole lot more beautiful. Amazing, absolutely. Fun and insight, hope to see more of these
-Sherry, participant

👉  It was a great event and it was the first event by khwaaish that I attended. The event included speeches, poems, songs,games,quizzes and information about many freedom fighters and Indian history. I enjoyed the event and everyone else present there enjoyed it too. And the best part was that I got inspiration from each and every one especially the founders as they have initiated such a good thing in such a mere age.
All the best and keep up the good work!
- Kashika, NCC cadet




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Today, let's cut the chase and talk about a social evil called Female Genital Mutilation.

Wondering, What is Female Genital Mutilation?

Let us tell you, Female genital mutilation (FGM) is “The partial or total removal of the external female genitalia or causing another injury to the female genital organs (private parts) for non-medical reasons.”

FGM is inhumane, brutal torture that is being practiced in various families and communities around the world without any questions. The practice has stood for decades on not just one but a no. of social and cultural pillars. To mention some:

 

              EndFGM — The Pink Protest

                         

FGM is a social norm and so it is believed that removing the body parts which are unclean and dirty makes the girl more beautiful.
The main aim of FGM is to ensure no premarital virginity loss or marital fidelity. It is to control the women's sexuality and prevent her from any extramarital sexual acts.
 It is believed in certain communities that being cut increases marriageability. Seriously!??!
 People also believe that the clitoris indicates maleness ( now males too are impure, great!)and so it must be removed for the purpose of purity.

                      Uganda FGM ban: 'Why I broke the law to be circumcised aged 26' - BBC News
In all, there are four different types of FGM:

i. The partial or total removal of the clitoris and/or the area surrounding and protecting the clitoris.

ii. The partial or total removal of the clitoris as well as labia. This is the most common type of FGM and accounts for up to 80 percent of cases.

iii. The third type involves the narrowing of the vaginal orifice by creating a covering seal through the cutting and apposition of the labia. This may be done with or without the removal of all or part of the clitoris. This type of FGM – often called infibulation – constitutes 15 percent of all procedures.

iv. The final type involves all other harmful procedures done to the female genitalia for non-medical purposes, including pricking, piercing, incision, burning,
branding and scraping.
                FGM/C: A Call for a Global Response - Global Report (2020) | End FGM
             
Traditionally, the procedure was carried out by women with no medical training. Anesthetics and antiseptic treatment are not often used and the practice may be carried out using basic tools such as scissors, knives, scalpels, pieces of glass, and razor blades. Iodine or a mixture of herbs is often placed on the wound to tighten the skin in and around the vagina and stop the bleeding. In recent years, the procedure has been medicalized in some regions and it is carried out in health care facilities by trained health care personnel. The age at which female genital mutilation is carried out varies
from one region to another. It is carried out on infants just a few days old, children, adolescents, and, occasionally, on mature women. In some cultures that practice FGM,
women are re-infibulated (re-stitched) following childbirth.

There are thousands of girls out there who are forced to experience this kind of pain unaware of what is happening to them. The only thing they know is that it is in their 'culture' and it has to be followed.
             FGM in the Horn of Africa — Women in Islam
FGM is performed mainly on children and adolescents and has a ritual origin. The procedure is painful and traumatic, with no health benefits. It violates a series of human rights principles, including:

1. The principles of equality and non-discrimination on the basis of sex.

 2.The right to life (when the procedure results in death).

3.The right to freedom from torture and cruel, inhuman, or degrading treatment or punishment.

4. The rights of the child.

FGM is a manifestation of gender inequality, and the empowerment of women is of utmost importance to the elimination of the practice.

Just as we have together banished several social evils including dowry, domestic violence, no education for girls, and prostitution, we have to banish FGM as well and remind, those hurt, that humanity is still alive.

Peace out :)☮️

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The picture of the article displayed here is a "muslim" man, raping a "hindu" girl and a 10 year old "dalit" girl bitten by a snake.
WHAT'S COMMON IN BOTH THE ARTICLES? 


 It's that they are a classic example of how media manipulates news, highlighting aspects of a case that didn't even exist, in order to make it more appealing.
Was the communal angle necessary to explore? NO.
Did the news source add it anyway? YES.
IT DILUTES THE IMPORTANT PARTS OF A NEWS DOWN TO NITTY GRITTY DETAILS THAT RELATIVELY, don't matter as much as the atrocity itself.
The actual atrocity in this case was a woman being raped, and a girl being bitten by a snake. Would the snake have left the girl if she wasn't dalit? NO. caste and religion were a non-related matter, added only as ornaments to attract an audience.

Mainstream media usually only covers what captures more eyeballs, regardless of what it conveys;
please don't fall for it.



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There are three types of people in this world; vegetarians, non-vegetarians, and the most trendy, vegans! and thus we are talking abt “ The Vegan Fashion!!”

But before we dive in, let’s understand What is Veganism?


Olive Oil, Olives, Food, Oil, Natural


Veganism is not only about eating plant-based foods, rather it is a lifestyle where people minimize animal exploitation as far as possible and practicable.

Now, What is Vegan Fashion??
Vegan fashion is the fashion genre where the production and marketing of clothes follow veganism and excludes animal exploitation, clothes are free of materials derived from animals such as fur, leather, and wool. They also refuse buttons, glues, and other details that come from animal sources.

Vegetables, Avocado, Asparagus, Tomatoes
Why opt for vegan fashion?
There are a billion reasons to do so. Top three being:

1.It’s not at all humane to make animals suffer, especially where we have just as good or even better alternatives to the non-vegan counterparts.

2.Animal agriculture has a huge impact on the environment, and reducing the number of animal products we buy is the biggest and easiest thing we can do for our planet (after not having kids).

3. The most skin-friendly and natural are all vegan! Then why use the heavily chemical-treated non-vegan stuff, duh!


What should we avoid when going vegan?
Let us make that simple with the table given below.
Pumpkin, Vegetables, Autumn, Basket

Non-vegan material
Bad Vegan Alternative
Good Vegan Alternative
Fur

-
Faux Fur
Leather

PVC
PU Leather
Plant-based leather (best)
Wool

 Acrylic
Cotton
Silk

-
Rayon
Modal (Best)
Downs & Feathers

-
Recycled Plastic
Pearls

-

Tomatoes, Basil, Mushrooms
Ethically-Mined Gemstones


Details That Make Your Clothes Non-Vegan

Animal protein-based glue
Leather patches
Inks and dyes
Buttons made out of Mother of Pearl and Horns.

What To Do With Non-Vegan Clothes You Already Have?
Now some  of us may ask that if we turn vegan then what about our precious leather belts and boots and THAT FUR COAT!! We just can’t dump them in a bin,right!?!
Of course we can’t and so here are some ways to avoid that from happening:

Keep them until you’re comfortable with wearing them.
And if you are not then simply just donate them.
…...or sell them. (we all like money, RIGHT!?)
….or maybe just swap them with someone else.
Vegetable Skewer, Paprika, Tomato
Now, to save your ‘browsing-on-the-net’ energy, here are some INDIAN VEGAN BRANDS (and they are affordable guys!!)
Paioshoes
Aulive.In
Brokemate
Arturedesign
Achillesheel
Malai.eco
Zouk
Thecaistore
The Alternate
Hamelin

Last but not least, remember:

 "Fast fashion is not free, someone somewhere has paid the price for it."

PEACE OUT!

Tomatoes, Trusses, Bush Tomatoes

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      Mental Health, Wellness, Psychology, Mind

Feeling stressed out?


Disappointment hovering like a cloud?


Not having any fun?


If Yes is your answer, then you are not alone.


We have all been through it and we have all surfaced as victors! With the all so fast and hectic lifestyle we live in nowadays, it’s next to impossible to experience perfect physical let alone mental health or well-being. 


But, WHAT EXACTLY IS MENTAL HEALTH?


Mental Health is a healthy and happy state of mind where one can cope with his/her daily life struggle and still go to sleep every night with a smile on their face, he/she recognizes their abilities and works productively to contribute towards his/her community.

    Mental Health, Cranium, Head, Human

Ok, so that is mental health but why should You care?


Because mental health and well- being can greatly affect many areas of your life. Be it-

· Work, school, or home

· Physical health

· Ability to think clearly and make decisions

· Your relationship with others

· Or overall life satisfaction


Mental Health, Abstract, Anatomy, Art


Mental health is as significant and as important as our mental well-being


So, how do I maintain good mental health?


Just as you may work to keep your body healthy, you can also work to keep your

 mind healthy by keeping in mind the three pillars of good health:


· Good (undisturbed) Sleep (7-8 hours per night)

· A balanced diet

· A good amount of Physical movement regularly (minimizing sitting time and increasing the movent of the body)


Mindfulness, Brain, Heart, Mind, Body


People should also remember that mental health is NOT the same as the absence of mental illness. Mental health includes emotional, psychological, and social well-being. It can influence:


· How you feel about yourself, the world, and your life.

· Your ability to solve problems and overcome challenges.

· Your ability to build relationships with other people.

· Your abilities to achieve and accomplish your goals

 

Anxiety, Stress, Depression

 

There are 4 basic dimensions of mental health and well-being

THOUGHTS                                                                                 

· Positive: I am a good person even though I have some flaws.

· Negative: My flaws are too big to overcome.

 

BEHAVIOR

· Positive: I reward myself for my accomplishments.

· Negative: I pond my fist when I am angry.

 

BODY REACTIONS

· Positive: I feel relaxed and calm.

· Negative: My heart is racing.


EMOTIONS

· Positive: I feel happy.

· Negative: I feel frustrated and annoyed.


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Why should mental health matter to you and your family?


Life is about appreciating little things in what we have NOW and when we suffer, be it mentally or physically, even the slightest spark of joy can turn into a wildfire of negativity and suffering.

This can make it even harder to enjoy a balanced and rewarding life. Everyone can benefit from learning how to enhance and protect their mental health—whether or not they've experienced mental illness or not. 


So, It becomes very important for all of us to agree with the American actress, 

Glenn Close, when she said-


Sunset, Cloud, Meditation, Buddhism, Mindfulness, Sky


“What mental health needs are more sunlight, more 

candor, and more unashamed conversation.”

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Khwaishh organized an event called AAGAZ, under which we held an art competition as a tribute to rape/ assault victim (on the occasion of 16th December)/Nirbhaya Kaand) . And hence motivated awareness via it.
The winner of the competition was Ishita Dhawan, who won every one's heart by the following poem :

Kya ab yeh ruh kaanpne ke liye bach gyi hai ?
Yeh hath sirf piche mudjane aur soone padhne ko rehgye?
Aankhon ke har aansu se mombati ne dua mangli.

Kya yeh ab bhi jhelte rahe?
Kya ab bhi chup baithe rahe ?

Agar ek parinde ko pakda hota toh shayad yeh chuppi kayam rehti.
Ek devi ki izzat par aanch uth chuki,
Yeh bediyan suraksha ke layak nhi .
Yeh samaj humare sath nahi .

Uss pehli chunar ke utarne se uski aakhri sans tak,
Jeevan aur maran ke beech .
yeh manav aur danav ke beech.

In cheenkhon, dard,chupi,sharam ko ,
Ek shashtra aaj banayengi.
Ek-Ek ungli jod ek muthi jab banayengi.

Aurat hi savarti hai duniya,
aaj yeh aurat hi
In danavo ka nash karayengi.

Khudha bhi dekhega ab,
Iss dharti lok par kiska vaas hai.
Vishnu ki koi yahan khabar nahi,
Ab draupdi ne karna sarvanash hai.                    

    - Ishita Dhawan

                     


We came across an amazing participants and their outstanding artworks.

The second event we optimised under AAGAAZ was a webinar on the topic "my body, my space".
The session was a great success for Khwaishh with outstanding attendees.
The topics that were
discussed in this online session were:
My body, my space
Bad touch /good touch
Share your story
Self love
Presentation by Khwaishh upon the above mentioned topics. 



                


We were also blessed by the presence of two chief guests.
Ms Surbhi Jain, Founder of Jazba : The helping Hand and Ms Khushi Jain, Social media influencer and a trained dancer.


Khwaishh managed to pull off these both events with great response and effort.


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2020? Doom.  2020? Worst.  2020? Screwed everyone. 2020? Go away.

             


Even after years of moving on from the disaster that is 2020, humankind will look back at the year drowned with many emotions.
With any second thought, 2020 has been filled with pain, revolts, hatred, death, fear, and so on. But we have also learned a lot of different fractions of lessons


 

              
The former years were just so mundane, us living the race of life stretching more far and far from our families, friends, and importantly ourselves. 2020 from the beginning bought us together. By the sound of a "strange" virus killing people filled everyone inside the unfamiliar walls with fears. The following time made us overcome that threat we had, together. 



In fact, this year didn't just bring our loved ones together but also made the whole world became one. For a single fight.
The coronavirus made us understand the little importance of our being. We addressed nature's revolt. The biggest one ever. We learned to respect the natural flow of this world and not to tatter it with blemishes. 


                 


The year has made us more evolved. More understanding. Braver.
This just isn't it. From seeing a black man being killed in the saddest way, every sensible human there it grew into the matter, talked about it. We learned that this is 2020 and Racism will no longer be tolerated. With that US also saw the removal of their worst leader ever i.e Mr. Trump (at least they fought against the second deadly virus of their country). 




Talking above revolts, the ongoing protests of farmers made us more aware of the food givers. We saw them so powerful and determined.
We even witnessed the brutalities people are put that are so extreme that they take their own lives, hence we learned the importance of MENTAL HEALTH, something which should have been the most prominent discussion all this time.
From animals to the silent roads we heard them, we saw them, we became more and more learning.
We learned to maintain a physical distance but as well as to kill the distance of hearts. 



2020 has been such a lesson for us. We went through so many distinct emotions.
In the end khwaishh hopes, vaccines to be available soon, every protest to be entangled sensibly, and every human being to be mentally free and strong.

             2020 a year that made us humans again.



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On 28th November Our team initiated a drive where we distributed warm clothes, shoes, blankets to people in need keeping the winter months in consideration.
We also took a step to give toys and winter assessments as well. 


The day went smoothly with the support of beautiful people who took forward a step and donated their clothes. 


Today we saw another part of the society where people are deprived of some prominent necessities. 

We were overwhelmed at the end of the day when we realized that we have given something to someone to make them smile.


 

 We are more motivated and feel blessed to have a platform where we can give a contribution to someone's life.
We hope for more support and strength for our further drives.




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WHY KHWAAISH?
All of us, in one way or another, are exposed to the deplorable, rejected and more often than not, "taboo" parts of our society. Most of us 'choose' to remain silent still, and we weren't any different.
The pandemic of 2020 changed something in us.

A destitute man walks barefoot to his house in raging heat; a mother elephant is killed for the sake of "fun"; A trans woman is bullied because of her gender identity; and a boy, much too deppressed to know better, claims his own life. These events occur in varying degrees, some being more brutal than others.
KHWAAISH is a call to action.
We, a group of young adults determined to make change in our community, regardless of the degree to which it may happen, have collaborated to create KHWAAISH: A wish to make souls shine.

WHAT IS KHWAAISH AND ITS AIMS?
KHWAAISH is a call to action.
While trying to educate people through the medium of articles, posts and competitions on our blog on different agendas; We also conduct drives for the destitute and animals, seminars on mental health and events in our community. With the collaborative support of our team, we cover crucial agendas like feminism, awareness on LGBTQIA+, Mental health and animal welfare in contact with local NGOs, professional counselors and psychologists.

It's a promise to a new wave of change, and as we love to say, a wish to make souls shine.

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